Thursday, June 12

I'm Not Dead; Just Changing.

I know it has been awhile and I know that I haven't been the best blogger the last few months, but I guess I just needed a break. I have been blogging for such a long time. Since I was a teenager I've spent a good portion of my life writing. Soon during the beginning of the second half of my twenties I felt like I needed to step away from the computer screen and actually live.

In the last few months I've not only taken a break, but I've grown up so much as well. When I was in my teens and throughout the first half of my twenties I felt so compelled to write because it helped me when I was unhappy. I guess as soon as I met Alex I became less angsty and more mature. I became happier and I didn't need to write about every problem or despair anymore. However maybe also I became more busy. I've been working more and trying to figure out how to be an adult. Working towards bigger dreams. This will be a short blog tonight as I explain the next step for me in the blogging world.

One of the main reasons I think I've been distracted and blogging less is because of December. Alex became really sick and was in the hospital. It became my main focus to help him out and things like blogging took a backseat to his health. However it made me realize what it truly means to love someone.

One of the biggest changes and the main reason I'm changing the nature of my blogging is because of February. Shortly after our first year anniversary and Valentine's Day my life changed. On February 26, 2014 Alex asked me to marry him. I'm so excited for this new chapter of my life and that is why it is with bittersweet feelings that I say goodbye to this blog. This blog will forever be in my memories and I will look back fondly at how much it helped me grow into the amazing person I am. I will get to read back on all I've lived through so far.

That being said; it is not the end of my blogging. I've just chosen to create a new blog to document my life. As I plan my wedding, start my marriage, and have children someday I felt like it was time to say goodbye to my youth. Goodbye to a blog about an angsty girl and it is time to find myself a new canvas to work with and to write on. One that I appropriate for the wife and mother I will become.

So if you wish to continue reading you can find me at:

http://whitechocolateandweddingcake.blogspot.com


Thank You for all the years and I hope you will follow me on this new adventure.

Friday, September 13

Oh I've Been Looking for 25 Years

So I know it has been awhile, but it has been a busy summer. However I hope this will be worth it.

The title for this blog seems extremely appropriate for how this part of my life is beginning. The line is from a Matt Hires song, 'Restless Heart'. I don't know what it is, but I feel kind of restless and with how my birthday weekend went you would understand that as well.

I am 25 years old now and I cannot even believe it.

Five years ago I was 20: Almost done with college and with such a zest for the future.
Ten years ago I was 15: A Freshman in high school I was excited to grow up and I was just starting this blogger's journey.


The future is here now and it has come so fast. I don't think I expected to be where I am, but I'm still looking. I know one day I will find it. This weekend reminded me how much fun life can be.

Friday September 6: Friday was an amazing day. Although I'm not one that enjoys waking up early it felt like being a kid on Christmas morning. I woke up early that morning and drank some coffee while I ate breakfast. It was nice to have a beautiful relaxing morning away from work and time to not stress out. I waited around until Alex came over to pick me up. Alex came over and gave me his gift. In all my years I have never gotten jewelry from an actual jewelry store. I don't think I will ever forget those beautiful sapphire earrings. I almost cried. After that we went to lunch at the Hibachi Grill by my house. Lunch was delicious and when we had finished eating we ran around doing wonderfully fun things. We went to Roseville Mall and got a caribou caramel highrise (free coffee) and chocolate truffles. I got another free coffee at the Starbucks so I got an amazing pumpkin spice latte (my first of the season) Went to the comic book store for magic cards and then to Barnes and Noble. By the time we were done for that it was time for the concert. That night I got the amazing privilege of seeing Parachute, Matt Hires, and Paradise Fears. The concert was amazing!! I love Parachute and getting to finally hear some of their new music was great. I fell into bed so very blessed and happy that night.

Saturday September 7: The fun continued on Saturday. The first part of the morning was spent with Alex. Snuggling and watching movies. He played video games and I read. Then we went to Spirit Halloween store to get some things for zombiefying ourselves at the end of the month. Looked at the Savers for costumes. Before we knew it was time to get ready for Uptown. For drinks and fun we headed to Uptown's Cafeteria. Although the service was not the greatest, we had a great time. I got some delicious drinks and free cotton candy for my birthday. Alex had to get up early for work so he dropped me off at Sara's were the festivities continues we a game of Cards against Humanity. We didn't get to bed until well after 2:30am.

Sunday September 8: Sunday was all about the Taylor Swift concert. That night I got to see Taylor Swift's RED tour that included Casey James and Ed Sheeran. Ed Sheeran was amazing. He played two of my favorites. Give me Love and Lego House. He is such an amazing artist for being so young. Then after Ed came the one and only Taylor Swift. Her tours are always so wonderful. The just leave me in awe. I had fun and afterwards the venue gave away free Diet Coke.

When I thought about being a quarter of a century I guess I thought I'd have more done? I'm sorry if I haven't been writing much I don't know if because I've been doing this for ten years if I'm getting restless. I used to love writing about things, but lately I've been so busy doing things. Could it be work? That tends to leave me too stressed out of my mind to think of things to write?

I guess I look forward to the next year of my life.I've been waiting twenty-five years for my life to start. I want things to change this year. I'm in love, despite all the stress and obstacles that face Alex and I. Well I want to have something to work for these next years of my life. I look forward to making my dreams come true for the both of us. 

I am tired, however I leave you with my life verse for the year it comes from Psalm 46:5

It states:
“God is within her, she will not fall; God will help her at break of day.”

I will really live this verse this year. Have more faith in God's plan for me and not relying so much on my own understanding.

Good Night Guys.

Wednesday, July 31

Please Don't Stop The Music


When I was sixteen I started this project. The idea was to pick a band each month and let their music inspire my life. At first it was a way to let the music be heard to its fullest potential, but as the years went by it became so much more. Not only did it allow me to find so much new music; it also gave me soundtrack to the years in my life. Now eight years later I am just amazed at all that has happened. Since I started this little endeavor eight years ago. I have had one failed prom date, a three year relationship, and countless lessons learned. This is the part where of the entry where I explain what kind of year it was and give it a theme. 2012/2013 was a year in which I found so many awesome bands and artists. The year where I said good bye to a franchise that I loved and the music that will always remind me of it. Twas the year in which I started one relationship and ended the year in a completely different one. However I suppose I will be able to explain all of that during our musical journey.

August 2012: Matt Nathanson
The musical year started with an acoustic feel. I was starting something new and listening to Matt Nathanson's voice made it seem easy. I remembered the old tunes from my college days. All We Are and Come on Get Higher. As the summer was coming to an end I was reminded about the song Wedding Dress. The mistakes someone else had made that were making me suspicious. I had a new boy in my life who was wonderful and kind. I was excited for the adventures we would share together. So I began my musical year believing that he was what I needed in life much like I needed the song Faster to take me out of my rut. As the fall started to come finally I became obsessed with the songs Bulletproof Weeks and Still. I have grown so much in the last year that August seems like such a distant memory.

September 2012: Artist VS Poet
With September came birthday fun with a sushi class and the final weeks before my best friend left with her husband for four years in Germany. The month was full of fall fun and the song Adorable made me feel bubbly and fun. Feeling like I was adorable just for all the things that others thought were annoying. I had previously heard Damn Rough Night and that is where I found my fondness for this band. They have a punky sound much like a Cute is What We Aim For. I liked the way the harmonies were sweet at times and had a wonderful pop sound as well. It made turning twenty four so much more than I expected. As the leaves began to fall and I was having adventures in Apple Orchards I felt the song Alive so much as well.

October 2012: Ed Sheeran
Little did I know when I heard a haunting melody during the winter of 2012 that I would fall so deeply for a silly redhead in his twenties. A-Team started what would be a love affair with Ed's music. I was even lucky enough to see him at Jingle Ball this year. I was shocked at how many crazy tweeny girls went mad for him because I think he is a little more sophisticated for them. However when listening to Taylor Swift's RED she mentioned the song Lego House and it became such a beautiful love song. (I'm so excited to see him w/ Taylor this year) A song I cannot help but listen to over and over again. I swear October I discovered Ed Sheeran's music like I always hoped to feel when I started this project. It seems like there isn't a song I don't like by him. I found the sad ballad of Small Bump and the sweet sultry of his deepest love songs with. Kiss Me, This, and Give Me Love.

November 2012: Twilight Music
As I said goodbye to such a wonderful part of my youth and a saga, I dedicated November to saying goodbye. I think it was decided early on in November, but as I watched the Twilight Saga Marathon on a chilly Thursday (into Friday) I remembered why I not only fell in love with the books, but the movies. The music these films and Stephanie Meyers led me too. It is amazing how something so visual can lead you to such wonderful earfuls of audio. It starts with the Paramore song Decode and Death Cab's Meet Me At The Equinox in the beginning. Finally finding the beauty in bittersweet goodbyes with Bruno Mar's It Will Rain. Finding my way to a final good bye to Christina Perri's A Thousand Years. I have fallen in love with the story of Edward Cullen and Bella Swan to this music. It was only fitting that I let November, the last November with them, be dedicated to the music of their love story.

December 2012: Better Than Ezra
With December came a new show, Roswell. I was watching an episode one day when I heard the song Closer and was reminded of all the late 90s early 00s music I missed. I think December was a busy month, but I liked this song. It was December 28th and I was coming back from my grandma's house. I listened to this song about a young man walking into his son's room frightened that he would make a good father. It began to make me think about the future I wanted. The future Christmas days and such. So as I said good bye to 2012 I felt this was appropriate.

January 2013: Maroon 5
January was the month in which everything changed. It wasn't a planned thing. I am not a cheater I promise. However as I tried my hardest to make a clean break it was made easier the more time spent with Alex. Daylight became an unexpected song for my new love. It wasn't forced, but somehow destiny chose it for us. January 5th, 2013 I went to a wedding. In the soft tones of the radio a confession was made and a decision needed to be made as well. It was then that I had felt how I had lost my heart and how I never really got it back. So I made a difficult choice and let what I had go for a scary unknown much like the song Harder to Breathe. As January went on I listened to all sorts of favorites like Sunday Morning and Won't Go Home Without You I started feeling like I had made the right choice. That warm feeling when I was with Alex during the coldest of months. So the year began with Maroon 5 and Daylight became our song.

February 2013: Saywecanfly
To be honest February was kind of a blur of a month. It was the month I realized that I had been in love with Alex. It was the month that we decided to make it official. So in the sweet Valentine days and birthday moments I listened to the song Dandelion Necklace. I was kind of busy keeping secrets and spending days with my love I found saywecanfly in AP Magazine and liked the song. So I picked them in the middle of the busyness.

March 2013: A Rocket to the Moon
When I picked them it was before the band broke up. However boy have they gone out with a bang. When I was younger I loved the song Like We Used To and this began my obsession with this band. Unlike the song I had found the better man. The one that didn't do things like the others used to, but better. As I spent more Snow days with Alex I listened to the song Mr. Right and it made me giggle. He always thinks that he is the one that has won some sort of prize, but I am the one the feels lucky. It was in the middle of those snow day there came the epic song the reminded me why I love this band. Ever Enough with Debby Ryan made me emotional and I fell for the sweetness of the song. The music video is such a wonderful story of love. It is about being young and in love. Not letting the harshness of the world take that away from you. That no matter what hardships you might face, as long as you face them together everything will feel better. The video showed the couple running away to get away from the stress by going to Vegas and getting married. “After all that I've done, is it ever enough.” Such a beautiful song and I think it is epic.

April 2013: Birdy
April this year wasn't like a normal April. There were not really rain shower as much as endless blizzards. In the midst of snow days snuggled with my love I was on his computer trying to find a video to show him on youtube. That is where I found the Bon Iver cover of Skinny Love by the young and talented Birdy. This young girl with braces with the angelic voice. I began to research her and found that even though I was happy there was such a beautiful tragedy to the songs. They really expressed so much of how it feels to have a snow covered April. Wishing for the sun to finally come out. I found Terrible Love and 1901. This is very District 12 type music and it was only fitting that Just a Game ended up on the Hunger Games Soundtrack.

May 2013 The Afters
Back in the days I used to go to the Sonshine Music Festival I fell in love with the early songs of The Afters. This wonderful Christian band that tends to inspire me the more I listen to them. It started one day in May when I finally was able to go to the park and listen to music. This simple thing made me feel like I had found myself again. One night I heard Life is Beautiful and it made me think of of Alex and myself. It made me think of just how lucky were are to have one another. We are not weathly in money, but this song reminded me that we are far richer in memories and in experiences. The song makes me think of all of the little things that make me feel wise and rich beyond anything imaginable. This song brought back my love of the The Afters. In January I believe my title of the new year blog was after Light Up The Sky. I started listening to them in May and it allowed me to remember my youthful years. With Never Going Back to OK and Lift Me Up! May was about worship God through music. Thanking him for finally giving us Spring after such a LONG winter.

June 2013: Delta Rae
I was listening to Cities 97 one morning on my way to work and I heard this song, If I Loved You. Immediately I felt extremely connected to it. This would be the song I would send to the boy that I started this musical year with. I realized at the beginning of this summer that I felt different than I did the previous one. While listening to this song I found that I had never been in love until I met Alex. At least not the kind of love that is spoken in scripture. I really enjoy this song, but it is so hard to listen to because it makes me feel like I was dishonest.I know now that it was never about honesty I just realized that I had fallen for someone long before I had met this other boy. I had never really let go of my feeling for Alex. It was unfortunate and I'm sorry for hurting people, but I don't regret it, because I'm happy and I've found the love of my life. Delta Rae is such a wonderful folksy band. Their song Bottom of the River was even on True Blood. I love the way this band doesn't use the same singer. Each song has its own story and voice. Like Morning Comes or Dancing in the Graveyards. Truthful folk music, such a great way to begin the summer! Listening to music that not many people know about.

July 2013: Kacey Musgraves
In the beginning of July I got the honor of seeing The No Shoes Nation Tour. Even though I missed her Kacey Musgraves was there. The first song I heard awhile ago was Merry Go Round. Last year I put it on my birthday CD because it made me feel like she really related to small town life. The kind of town I grew up in. The type that makes you feel like if you don't have kids by 22 that you are crazy. This is such a beautiful song and it is so honest. Kacey's music is extremely country and I thought it spoke to the middle of Summer greatly. Even though I don't smoke her song Blowin' Smoke it such a funny one. Talking about those old town diners and how everyone wants to get out of them. Makes me feel like I don't have to work my dead end job forever. The last song I just heard recently is Stupid. Wow do I love this song. It has this tune that just gets stuck in my head and makes me feel so fun.



So this was the type of year that you only find in move scripts. Where the girl falls for the guy, but he doesn't think he is good enough for her so he lets her go. Knowing that she will move on and find another guy. Then he comes back into her life confessing that he made a huge mistake and wants her, he always has, but he was afraid. Even though she doesn't want to hurt anyone the girl has a choice to make. She knows it will be hard, but that if she doesn't follow her heart she would regret it forever. So with a deep breath she jumps blindly into it not knowing with any certainity. If those moments don't deserve a soundtrack then I don't know what kind do? This year was one that gave me butterflies. It gave me butterflies because I not only got to share new moments with people, I got to share them twice. I grew so much to see that we don't really choose who we fall so hopelessly in love with. That we cannot fight the fate that is laid out for us. I know some years I make predictions and other years I don't. The last few years I haven't really felt like I knew, but I feel it in my bones that by the next music blog there will be something special and that my dreams I've waited so long for will start to come true. Maybe I'm just being hopeful, but either way I'm excited to fall in love to music.

Sunday, July 28

Do it Yourself

Every once in awhile I get really inspired about certain things. I apologize if this is a repeat blog topic, but most of the time I get inspired it is about food and tonight is no exception. While a lot of the time I get inspired about cakes my mind is overflowing with other ideas tonight. This weekend we have had unusually cool weather for the end of July. Most people find these days depressing and dull, yet I don't mind them so much. While I wouldn't want to spend weeks with this kind of weather, I do appreciate the cooler summer nights every once in a while.

Maybe I love these days because I love baking.When it gets hotter outside I don't get to bake as often because turning on the oven tends to heat up the house to a level I like to call melting. But on a cooler night like this I get excited about all sorts of dreams I hope to have in the future. I get to enjoy warm teas, eat soup, and make fresh baked bread.

It is amazing how much money we waste on things that we could very well make ourselves. Tonight the weather has reminded me of all the things I love to do that save money. Days like these make me excited for the future I can see for myself soon. Nights drinking tea and baking bread for Alex and me. I get excited when I think of making batch after batch of homemade soups and jams. To make things I am able to can and eat throughout the year. It isn't really a green thing, but just a reminder that with a little more time we can make things that are delicious and good for us. I'm excited to move out and have my own little vegetable garden. I am excited to grow cucumbers and pumpkins. Maybe it is just the 1960s housewife in me that wants to brew her own iced tea. The one that loves those gooey hotdishes. The type of girl that understand how much she can do. I mean even with my soda machine I can make my own soda now too. I want to get into brewing beer and learning how to do things like that. Doing things that I can look at and be proud of. The types of skills I can teach my children some day too.


It isn't just food either. I love quilts and I am slowly getting into quilting. I think to give someone a handmade quilt is one of the best gifts you can give. The idea of a quilt and how much time is spent reminds us how people put so much heart into it. I'm sure a lot of you have quilts that have been handed down to you from elders. They not only keep you warm, but they keep your heart warm too. I find my mind wandering to nights like these with Alex. These chilly nights watching movies and snuggled up in blankets. I look for making a life for ourselves and living with what we have. While the future tends to overwhelm me and sometimes gets intimidating I think Alex makes it less scary. I've been kind of sad this week because I realize I'm going to have to get another job in order to make our dreams come true.


However I hope to always have a little time to do these things, because they do truly make me happy. Well I will be back on Wednesday with the music blog. I cannot believe how fast a year goes by.

Friday, June 21

Back In The Game Again












It is late, but so astoundingly beautiful here in chocolate world tonight. There is a soundtrack of music blasting through my headphones. I'm content, but I also wish I were somewhere else. It may be late, but yet if you have known anything about me over the years of reading, you'd know this is when I've done some of my most honest and raw writing.

The last five years of my life have been nothing short of a little f*d up. Between a boyfriend that cheated on me to another situation I don't have the words nor the mindset to explain I've some how found myself to be relatively normal.

Tonight I'm happy. I don't know if I've really felt like this in awhile. Yes, I've been happy, but tonight I finally feel like myself again. That 19 year old girl that felt so much promise and excitement for the world. I may not be 19 anymore, but I do feel that inspired passion again.

I promise you that I do not need a boy in my life to determine my happiness or effect my mood, however I am truly in love. That my dear friends in a whole other feeling and mood in itself. I never knew what true love was until I met this one. All the things that used to irritate me in other relationships don't happen with Alex. Sure we have our tiffs and disagreements, but no relationship is perfect. Yet in all of the imperfections I find strength to find solutions to make it better. I have someone that calmly works through my past with me. I truly have the sense of doing everything for the good of our relationship. I've learned that what he needs and what we need far outweighs my stubborn need to be right. He breaks my heart a little sometimes, as do I to him, but I think we find truth in those moments.

Now I'm also not one of those girls that gets this boyfriend and then blabbers on about him carelessly. This blog is not necessarily about my relationship update, but also an update on myself as well. This entry is about how I'm finally finding the inspiration again. I don't think I've thought about cake design and dessert theory seriously since I was maybe 20 years old. I'm about to be 25 this year and so you can see the vast way the last five years have effected me. It has really been a journey. In losing myself and in finding myself. With God's help I know I'm back to the girl I used to be. The one fresh into Culinary school that would doodle on any piece of paper all of her ideas and flavor combinations.

I'm thankful for Alex being brought into my life, because he saved me from making a really crucial mistake. It is nice to have a man that encourages this part of me. I know that I'm not working alone. That I finally have a partner that will give me mature and creative criticism. The other artistic soul that awakens mine. No more scared little boys, afraid of settling down. No more confusion. Just one young man that adores me and loves me just as I am. One that reminds me that maybe one day I might get my “Bostonian” dream. That boy that will eat my cake, one I can sit in on rainy nights with. Alex may not be everything I wrote wanting at 18 or even 23, but he is the man I needed. Life may not be easy, but with us together against the world, anything is possible.

Isn't that what I've been looking for all along, what I've been restless for? I hope one day all you lonely souls that read this find the story here. The one about a broken 17 year old, who met a boy, who thought she feel in love at 19, was bruised and forgotten during her early 20s, built herself back up at 23, found herself at 24. That no matter how hard things might seem at the time, there is always something better ahead. Maybe Switchfoot was right. 24 is an important year.

Maybe I kind of blabbered on a little, but it has been awhile.

Good Night Blogger Friends.