Marriage

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If you are a girl in society you are well aware of the difficulty that comes with this. It doesn't matter where you grew up there is always a huge emphasis on MARRIAGE. From any early age we are encouraged to play 'house' or with Barbie dolls. Sure Barbie started off as a tough and successful chick, but soon they brought Ken into her life. Well soon Barbie, much like most women in love, sort of lost her mind. She started to be presented as more of a caretaker and less of a career woman. Thus the hunt for the perfect marriage begins. In some societies marriages are chosen by the hearts of the people involved. In other places people are forced together much like we shoved Barbie and Ken. These marriages are arranged. We as women have been built to believe that our lives are not fulfilled unless we are married. We believe that our lives are not complete unless we are married at a specific age. If we aren't then we will be known forever as spinsters or old maids.

I can honestly say that I have fallen into this way of thinking and that I cannot help it. How does one get passed all of it. If you look at all the sources of media these days is it really such a surprise that women are slightly marriage inclined? Train is singing about white dresses , Bruno Mars want to "Marry You", and WE TV as their wedding Sundays. Every Monday there seems to be some version of The Bachelor. In my own viewing I've noticed that in the last three seasons of One Tree Hill or The OC it always ends in what else, but a wedding. The music, the television, the constant talk of The Shane Company. Why was I meant to feel crazy, for doing what seems to be the direction society wants me to go?

Although my ideas on the subject are a little more objective now that I am without someone significant in my life and the pressure if off. I won't deny that I still want a marriage, but I have also learned more about what it means to be in a marriage. I said before that I am fully aware of what needs to go into a marriage. I have always known what dedication and hard work goes into making one exist. I guess I have just found myself a calmer and wiser approach. I realized I need to be more intelligent when it comes to my future. I should never have to feel ashamed for wanting to marry someone that I loved. I just understand more clearly that women, like me, get caught up in the idea of being with the one perfect person ever day. I am fully aware now that twenty-two is very young and that I have so many more life decisions to make. I have a lot of life experiences to go through, but according to everything aren't I really just being a normal twenty-two year old?

Despite the sadness of my last situation I can still see joy. I also see how much more cautious I should be. We as women worry that we have invested too much time into a relationship and thus we settle for someone that isn't going to make a good husband. We pretend, like I did, that marriage will change someone and make them more responsible. I wish I could have listened more closely to all the Oprah shows and Cosmopolitan articles when they told me otherwise. No matter what though, the fact still doesn't change when someone says that they would consider marrying you, they shouldn't ever cheat on you. I think a person that can so quickly throw that away is a person that isn't cut out for marriage. They never will be. Every last person who is reading this knows how brutally truthful that statement is.

So, instead of thinking about a young man that will never be a husband I will continue to think about the man that will eventually be my husband. I haven't met him yet, but I am starting to see more everyday that this is part of the joy in romance. Finding what you want in a man from the castoffs of little boys you don't want.

That is what was on my mind. I wonder if it meant anything?